You Can't

Perhaps it's my overexposure of child-minded "men-boys" at my job, or the lack of interesting straight men my age,  or my departure from an abundance of available, attractive black men that has cause me to realize what my potential husband, boyfriend or boo thang can't do for me.  This is in no particular order.

1. You can't father a child that's not mine and might not even be yours and think I'm going to stick around.

2. You can't believe in evolution.

3. You can't wear super skinny jeans.

4. You can't pretend to be straight, you and I have TOO much in common, I'm just saying.

5. You can't have braids.

6. You can't discuss fantasy football and reddit all day!

7. You can't say, "Ahh my girlfriend's coming staying over this weekend" and not sounded excited. HELLO you might get laid. Just being real.  But not with your current attitude.

8. You can't talk about politics all day and not vote.

9. You can't have no ambition, no hope for a better future.

10. You can't have longer hair than me. Vain I realize but that's not cute to me.

11. You can't live with an ex.

12. You can't have multiple baby mamas.

13. You can't have nothing in common with me. What would we talk about?

14. You can't not work out or have some type of physical activity.

15. You can't be a straight up mama's boy.

Now I clearly realize how reasonable my can'ts are. Frankly I'm quite kind.  I hopeful this man is out there. And I'm also hopeful he'll natural have the qualities I desire and not just the "potential" women like myself usually go for.

What are your "can'ts"

Journey to Healthy Hair

Just say no, just say no. 

Why is it during the winter time curly girls are so tempted to flat iron? Is it easier to wear straight locks to keep your hair moisturized in cold months. Or is it that the winter time is the only time when curly girls hair will stay straight? I'm falling into it myself. It  is so easy to do because supposedly wet hair in cold weather equals being sick. 

Since I around have some damage I don't want to add more heat to the already damaged ends.  Here are the steps I am taking:

1. Daily moisturize hair with my moisturizer (Kids' Best Moisturizing hair lotion)

2. Oil my scalp and ends with olive, grapeseed, or herbal oil daily. 

3. Shampoo weekly

4. Deep Condition weekly

5. Co-Wash more

6. Be gentle when styling. 

I have been doing protein treatments more frequently to help with the damage but ultimately I have been chopping my straight damaged pieces. 

What I am trying not to do is straighten my hair. But if I do. I would condition my hair overnight in big detangled twist so I don't have that much work to do in the morning .  Add a heat protectant . If you have a comb attachment blow your hair out, that way. I don't so I would use a paddle brush and blow out my big twist. When my hair is dry I would add a little oil and straighten in small sections probably with my instyler. Add moisture if needed. 

Usually I wear my hair in twist outs, styled a day or two after a wash and go. As the week progresses I wear buns or my new fav hair style is the faux french braid.