Don't compare yourself to others

I analyzed my position in my family, my school and just my community. Why do I always see what people think of me and not what I know of me? This has nothing to do with the outer beauty this is all about inter beauty. It's crazy how your misperception of yourself can hinder you from just being you. If you don't know what that means well you're not there. It's like a break through. Yes judgement is alive. Society gets trapped in "stuff and things" like my mama would say, not not in wise and passion. Not in hope and determination. Not in service and kindness but in cars, houses, clothes, shoes.  Life isn't about the job you have but the service you do for no fee.  It's about the love you share.  Don't compare your life with others around you. Focus on what you bring to the table. What are your strengths? Life is simple. I believe we all have a purpose from GOD and I believe we all want to be happy and to be loved. That's it.  All this need to keep up with the latest everything is simply complicated. Stay true to you. You are the only that walks in your shoes each day. You have to be happy with you each day. I think "rich" people are probably not as happy as we thing. Even the pretty girl with the long hair that I may be  jealous off or the beautiful lady with flawless skin. Or the curvy slim lady with all the right body parts is still just as judgmental as I am.  Grass isn't always green folks
PEACE

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Where is the Natural Hair Journey Taking Me

So tonight I was thinking. I am looking at all of these pictures of myself and other youtubes and thinking it's going to be a year of natural hair in October and what do I have to show for it? That is a terrible attitude and outlook and I know this but seriously. My hair isn't at the length I would like it to be to do more wash and gos. Or is it that I am not happy with the texture?  I'm thinking of all the growth and success I see from other people through videos. But where is mine? I can map out a plan to graduate college on time but not for healthy  hair growth. I guess I thought by now I would be styling it differently and maybe it's a challenge for to find more hairstyles. Who knows.

Natural Hair is a Personal Decision

Today my sister, who hasn't had a relaxer for probably 5 months or more, not sure,said she  is going to get a relaxer soon. I'm not sure why she hasn't relaxed sooner. She said she wanted to have 2 relaxers a year. Now today my mom, who has a TWA, said my sister needed a relaxer or needed to do something to her hair because it was starting to look rough.

This was my first surprise to hear my mother say this. But I think that is more because my sister doesn't take great care of herself. So back to the story. She told me she was getting the relaxer today. I convinced her to let me do her hair in a curly style before she does this. She said she understands how harmful relaxers are but doesn't care because her edges look bad. So I said I would even straighten.

Now I was watching some youtube videos and then I realized I can't make her want to be natural. It's a personal decision. She flat out said she doesn't like her curls or the way I wear my hair. I saw my strength today because her statement didn't even make me mad. It actually made me say hmmm. Well whatever. See my hair isn't going to be loved by everyone. Just like what I wear each day won't be loved by everyone or even what I say won't be loved by everyone. But the one who loves it is me. It was my choice to embrace my natural hair and I can't see myself going back. The thought of the relaxer is making me shaky.

So I guess tomorrow I will tell her I can't make this decision for her , she has to and if she does want to get a relaxer, well that's fine. But if she wants me to straighten her hair I will. One thing I know is that natural hair is not a thing your friends should decide for you it's for you to decide. Good luck